Saturday, December 17, 2011

Muse: Is He Still My Brother Inlaw?

I want to know is my brother in-law still my brother in-law even if I'm no longer married to his brother?  My brother in-law John and his wife Karen were in town visiting my ex.  They gave me a call to let me know they were in town, and we met for lunch.  It was like nothing had changed.  Our relationship is still the same. 

There visit provoked me to muse about my relationships with my in-laws.  I know I am divorced, but we have known and loved each other as family for 34 years.  For me, the hardest part of being divorced is the way it impacts relationships formed while part of a couple.  As I was musing about this last night, my sister in-law Brooke (or is she my ex-sister in-law) texted me for Christmas present ideas for my children.  The call brought back a flood of happy memories of Christmases spent at his parent's home, with his brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews and my parents too.

The last Christmas together (2006)

I feel loved and very sad at the same time.  I now miss the milestones of their lives, but I hope to always remain in their hearts. They will always be in mine, and I will always consider them family.  It was time for my marriage to end, we had changed and grown apart, but I am still not ready to let go of all of the loving relationships that were generated by it.   

No comments:

Post a Comment